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Did I exaggerate?
Posted by jaxmybaby
on 4/13/12 at 1:31pm
Yesterday I asked my 12 yr old to put the dishes away, she grunted and went to do it. She was banging glasses and doing it wrong, i told her once to do it right, her response was that she always did it that way. By that time I was already angry, with all the huffing, grunting and banging. I told her no computer time from Thur.- Sunday. I don't think that's too bad, but of course she thinks I'm one step away from locking her in a dungeon. Was it too much?

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Posted by psych_mom
on 4/13/12 at 1:38pm

I think that sometimes you just have to learn to ignore their huffy puffy behavior.
Posted by jaxmybaby
on 4/13/12 at 1:46pm

I should, but sometimes I find it hard to do. I don't want to go back on my word, but I don't want her to be moody all weekend.

Quoting psych_mom:

I think that sometimes you just have to learn to ignore their huffy puffy behavior.
Posted by psych_mom
on 4/13/12 at 2:42pm

Maybe it's time for a nice long talk about her respecting household things and how it makes you feel when she doesn't and when you feel she isn't being respectful toward you either.

Quoting jaxmybaby:

I should, but sometimes I find it hard to do. I don't want to go back on my word, but I don't want her to be moody all weekend.

Quoting psych_mom:

I think that sometimes you just have to learn to ignore their huffy puffy behavior.
Posted by emilyrosenj
on 4/13/12 at 3:26pm

If you said it then you have to follow through. I agree that sometimes you have to ignore the huffy puffies. I usually do it back to them but then I'm always messing with my kids like that. I also remind them that I don't huff and puff when I'm doing something that they WANT to do and I expect the same treatment.
Posted by styler7
on 4/13/12 at 3:31pm

It's so hard to ignore, I agree.

I also do not like to go back on my word.
One time I took a day to think about the punishment that was given, and I truly felt I was unreasonable because I got upset with the kids too quickly.
When they came home from school I told them how I felt, and how their actions made me feel. I also took away the punishment.

Quoting jaxmybaby:

I should, but sometimes I find it hard to do. I don't want to go back on my word, but I don't want her to be moody all weekend.

Quoting psych_mom:

I think that sometimes you just have to learn to ignore their huffy puffy behavior.
Posted by psych_mom
on 4/13/12 at 4:10pm

Sometimes as parents we have to admit that we were a bit hasty in our punishment because of the emotions that the behavior brought out in us. Occasionally taking a punishment back actually teaches our children that it's good to recognize your mistake, admit when you're wrong and correct it. It teaches them that we're all human and that even when we're adults sometimes our emotions or reactions to others emotions can still get the best of us.

Quoting styler7:

It's so hard to ignore, I agree.

I also do not like to go back on my word.
One time I took a day to think about the punishment that was given, and I truly felt I was unreasonable because I got upset with the kids too quickly.
When they came home from school I told them how I felt, and how their actions made me feel. I also took away the punishment.

Quoting jaxmybaby:

I should, but sometimes I find it hard to do. I don't want to go back on my word, but I don't want her to be moody all weekend.

Quoting psych_mom:

I think that sometimes you just have to learn to ignore their huffy puffy behavior.
Posted by Barabell
on 4/13/12 at 4:13pm

I think that punishment is pretty harsh.
We have lessened punishments before if we realize it's too harsh. An apology and explaining that adults make mistakes too is not always a bad thing for a child to hear. We're all human, and mistakes do happen.
Posted by jaxmybaby
on 4/13/12 at 4:34pm (3 likes)

Thanks ladies! All morning I kept thinking maybe it was to harsh, but at the same time, I didn't want to back down. I think a good conversation and some hugs are due. Thank you again, all of you!
Posted by bluedolly01
on 4/13/12 at 8:06pm

Bad attitude = removal of some privileges in my house. I dont think what you did was unreasonable.
Posted by fineyouguyswin
on 4/13/12 at 8:14pm

I think the punishments fine its just a computer if she can't go four days without a breakdown is worry