- Posted by boeks
on 10/8/12 at 9:54am (13 likes)I took my son to at least two funerals befor he was 5. He was very good for me. I think young children understand better what's going on and respond well. I've seen several small children at funerals and they seem to be more concerned with making people feel better then causing trouble. - Posted by shudderette
on 10/8/12 at 9:55amWhose funeral? Did they know the person well?
I took my kids to funerals when they were younger but now only if they know the person well. - Posted by michiganmom5150
on 10/8/12 at 9:56am (3 likes)It depends on who it is. If it's a family member or close friend, yes.. - Posted by easinpc
on 10/8/12 at 10:06am (8 likes)I think it would depend on how well behaved the child was, how long the funeral was going to be, who the funeral was for, and if the people there were understanding. I would however make sure to sit in the back where I could easily slip out with him if he started to get loud.
- Posted by devynsmommy09
on 10/8/12 at 10:20amSorry! I didn't realize that I hit the post button already. I updated the post. My ex mother in law wants to take my son to a funeral for his paternal great grandmother whom he has never met. I understand her wanting him to be around family but I feel its inappropriate. He doesn't understand death yet, we havent ever had that talk, and there is no way he is going to sit still through the service. I'm frustrated because I feel like the bad guy. When I said no, she made it seem like its a matter of me not trusting them. When I explained why I dont want him going, she told me to think about it and she will call me back. WTF.
Quoting shudderette:
Whose funeral? Did they know the person well?
I took my kids to funerals when they were younger but now only if they know the person well. - Posted by SexyDiva19
on 10/8/12 at 10:30am (2 likes)When my ds was 4, I took him to the funeral of his paternal grandmother. He had only met her when he was about 2 or 3 months old. It was also there that he met his father for the 1st time (to be able to recognize him)
If you want him to go, take him, if not then don't. Maybe your ex just wants to be able to show your son off and claim to be a "dad"
- Posted by Melissa_4
on 10/8/12 at 11:56am (12 likes)If your son didn't know his father's grandmother, I don't think he should be in attendance. 3 is really too young to sit through the wakes and the funeral, and it seems like both his father and his paternal grandma are wanting to just show him off. This is not the time or place for it.
- Posted by MeeshMom
on 10/8/12 at 12:51pmWhen my son was a baby I brought him to my friends funeral. He never got to meet my son but his brother and their family were delighted to have my baby there. He cheered them up actually. I don't see the hurt in taking a child. I also took my son to a funeral for my great aunt when he was 2. If you don't want your kid around his father that's understandable. It depends on the relationship with the dad and the family really. 3 is kinda iffy for a funeral cuz they can't sit still well but that would be his gma's problem if she choose to supervise him. - Posted by PeaceLoveZ
on 10/8/12 at 12:52pm (3 likes)Calling hours yes, Funeral No. - Posted by shudderette
on 10/8/12 at 1:09pm (9 likes)I would stick to your guns. Say no. If there is a family get together (like a dinner afterward) then he could go for that but not the actual funeral.
Quoting devynsmommy09:
Sorry! I didn't realize that I hit the post button already. I updated the post. My ex mother in law wants to take my son to a funeral for his paternal great grandmother whom he has never met. I understand her wanting him to be around family but I feel its inappropriate. He doesn't understand death yet, we havent ever had that talk, and there is no way he is going to sit still through the service. I'm frustrated because I feel like the bad guy. When I said no, she made it seem like its a matter of me not trusting them. When I explained why I dont want him going, she told me to think about it and she will call me back. WTF.
Quoting shudderette:
Whose funeral? Did they know the person well?
I took my kids to funerals when they were younger but now only if they know the person well.
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