I am not an "involved" parent when it comes to School.

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I am not an "involved" parent when it comes to School.
Posted by Cambriagurlmom
on 4/23/12 at 6:56am
I work graveyard, and I go to college full-time plus. I really don't have time other than reading a book with my daughter (except she has been reading them for the last two months) every night, and helping her with homework once a week when she asks. She is striving in Kindergarden and is at the highest in Reading (she is reading at a 2nd grade level) and Math (already doing Multiplication) She was the same child last year that her preschool teacher, my mom, and myself all worried if she could do it. She was very behind on some levels because of her speech (we were finally able to get her into a speech program in October) I use to ask once a day what she learned about but she would get mad and walk off so now its once a week. She reads to her sister who is 4, and her step-brother who is a month younger (and is severly suffering in school) I am extremely proud of her improvement over the last year and she has done it all on her own. She has also been a head-strong kind of child. I had her sister when she was 16mo old so I had to prep her early into the "mom is going to be busy" I really want to do something special for her at the end of the school year but I already know her step-brother is going to be really disapointed. He is going to be held back this year because he is still at "starting" kindergarden level, and has already been in "in-school suspension" 4 times this year for his behavior. They are in different classes, and he has been seeing a therpyist 3 times a week for the last 3 years. He is capable of doing the work just doesn't want to or gets ticked off because he doesn't understand it. I don't reward on a daily or weekly basis of how well she does but i feel that she does deserve something for the good work she has done this year. We honestly expected to get the daily phone calls from the teacher on her not him. We don't compair children and treat them all equally but from being the "problem" child to the "over acheiver" I want her to be proud of her progress. Her father made it to 8th grade because back in the 70's when he was in school there were no learning programs that helped him. I did finish HS but I decided to have kids before going to college. She has watched and suffer with me through my college career since Spring of 09' and I know that she wants to go to college too (she has gotten to sit with me in a lot of classes) Should I do something special for her?

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Posted by Anonymous
on 4/23/12 at 7:38am (3 likes)

She is in kindergarten doing multiplication and her step-brother who is the same age has been in in-school suspension 4 times and has seen a therapist for the past 3 years??? I'm sorry - I don't believe most of what you just wrote. It just sounds so extreme. ???
Posted by notjstasocermom
on 4/23/12 at 7:42am

I think you're lying.
Posted by momaof8
on 4/23/12 at 7:59am

I think you need to put your kids education first mom shouldn't be to busy maybe your son wouldn't be being held back
Posted by SnookiBoo
on 4/23/12 at 9:00am (2 likes)

Your print is too small I can barely read it.... for such a long dragged out story.
Posted by MommaRoseT
on 4/23/12 at 9:13am (2 likes)

Why don't you tell them both now that they can each be rewarded if they maintain a good track record until the end of school? That way the boy has something to work towards. My son was having a lot of issues completing his assignments in class and the teacher was worried he had ADHD and what not. We started a rewards chart with him which gave him a point for completing his assignments in each subject for the day. He had a chart that would show what reward he would get based on how many points he had at the end of each day. This worked wonders for him! This year he is in 2nd grade and doing awesome. His current teacher laughs at the thought that he was suspected at having ADHD. Boys and girls are VERY different so I am glad you say you don't compare them. I think you need to give the boy the chance to earn a reward along with your daughter. He may surprise you and then you can reward them both. Good luck!
Posted by Anonymous
on 4/23/12 at 9:14am (2 likes)

She was sooo behind last year and is now doing multiplication? BS. If it is all true, the person who said you should put your children first and not be so busy is wrong. Your child has obviously thrived from your neglect. Have her raise the others, don't do anything nice for her, just let her raise the other children. Sounds like they'll be better off than if they're raised by you, your husband and your mother
Posted by mommy_me
on 4/23/12 at 9:20am (1 like)

You should alwaysdo something special with your little ones :)
Posted by Anonymous
on 4/23/12 at 9:54am

Do you really need to ask if you should do something special for your child?
Posted by Rain2Rinse
on 4/23/12 at 10:00am (2 likes)

You should reward your dd, she obviously deserves it. Your son is obviously suffering from the lack of attention/help he receives. He needs more of your time, and you need to figure out how to give it to him.

I really likes another poster's suggestion that you give him a way to earn a reward as well.
Posted by RiotousDigits
on 4/23/12 at 10:01am (3 likes)

in the time you took to write this, you could have spent some time with your son.